3 tips to develop humility in your heart

Every thing we face, every person we meet & every incident occurs to us is actually a test

There are many good acts can be done in our lives to attain happiness and create humility in our hearts. These are some examples of what I think every human being should practice:

  1. Show gratitude to others

It is a norm for us to greet people we know with a smile. Then, another sunnah habit is to provide salam. I think most of us have no problem doing it. But do you greet or even smile at the strangers especially those whose doing multiple services around you. How many of you actually smile at the cleaning lady in public toilets? Maybe you should try to give a smile and greet them every time you need to use the toilets, it could bring joy and make their days too. Generally, we choose who we want to be nice to, preferably to those who bring benefits to us.

For example, we select friends who are most popular, wealthy or have certain criterion and interests but neglect those who are poor, disabled and weak. Some of us treat the waiters in restaurants badly – no thank you being mentioned to them when they serve food, throw money rudely on the counter or even ignore the cleaning lady at public toilet. Easy explanation, they don’t mean anything to us.

This in fact not true at all. We might not know them and we might think that they have no influence in our daily lives.  But have you ever thought that every single thing we face, every person we meet and every incident occurs to us is actually a test.

And the worldly life is not but amusement and diversion; but the home of the Hereafter is best for those who fear Allah , so will you not reason? (Al-An’am ayah 32)

Spread love by showing no discrimination towards other human beings especially to those who are less fortunate and do not be biased with certain people who are less important to us. Nevertheless, they are in our lives with purpose and the purpose might be a test.

And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace (Al-Furqan ayah 63)

And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful. (Luqman ayah 18)

2. Look out for reminders and constantly remind others

Have you ever come across Islamic reminders on social media which you feel that these reminders are exactly what you need at the moment? Human are made to be forgetful. Thus, it’s our duty to constantly remind each other about the deen using whatever medium we can access to.

And remind, for indeed, the reminder benefits the believers. (Ad-Dhariyat ayah 55)

But, preach is nothing good if there is no act upon it. Apparently, those who pass down the reminders should carry out the deeds or at least trying to work on them.

There are times when we are so focus with our worldly lives, we tend to disregard our connections with the Ultimate Creator. Thus, we feel empty. Yes, imaan can goes up and down connected to the link we have with Allah (azzawajal). At this point, any kind of reminders would certainly help us to shift our thoughts to the hereafter – the eternal home.

When you always feel angry, sad, disappointed, restless or even hateful, probably it is the time for you to check your connection with Allah. When was the last time you read the Quran, do zikr and pray tahajjud at night? Or at least, listen to good tazkirah or attend an usrah? We need constant reminders in our lives, getting involve in these Islamic activities would help to boost our imaan, inshaAllah.

3. Do daily charities

Charities can be done in many ways. But some of us limit the act of charity to provide money, food and essential items to the poor and needy only. In fact, since we don’t meet the poor every day, we tend to forget about the importance of giving sadaqah (charity). Try to give sadaqah every day, you will feel more humble and at peace. For instance, keep a plastic of cat food at home or in your car (even for those who don’t have a pet); whenever there is any stray cat or dog crying for food, you know what to do. Other than that, don’t throw away your leftovers – rice or bread – put them outside your place; the birds would love some easy food to be shared.

If you cook something nice, make some extra portion; pack them and head over to your neighbours. A homemade nasi goreng with a sincere smile of yours would never be turn down for sure. Equip ourselves with the spirit of always giving. Give give give, inshaAllah, He will do the same to us too.

So there you go with 3 simple acts we can do to constantly plant humility in ourselves. There are many acts we can definitely perform, but it is good to start somewhere. Allah loves small but consistent good deeds than any huge deeds which are done once in a blue moon.

Narrated `Aisha رضى الله عنها: Allah’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم  said, “Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah’s is the most regular and constant even though it were little.” [Sahih Bukhari]


Give space for people to change, please!

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When I looked down the memory lane, mesmerising all the sweet and bitter moments in life, I could easily felt the most gratitude towards my creator, Allah SWT, whom made my journey so interesting. How I’ve struggled, cried, laughed, trembled, overjoyed, loved, and tried so hard in every incidents occurred to me, I have learned so much. I would never regret with every single things and actions I made previously. As I know, those things that happened, brought me where I am right now. I learned things the hard way. Meaning, I went through difficulties in life to finally turned me into a better woman. But one thing for sure, I do not change overnight.

I went through so many phases of improvements just to get me strive for the better and this reminded me not to feel comfortable at where I am every time. I’ve seen so many people out there trying to be judges punishing others who have not entirely change in becoming better Muslims yet. Perhaps you don’t see this much pressure on normal people but you might come across those who are known publicly. A little change they made on themselves; e.g. started to wear headscarves but with tight clothes will be totally condemned and cynically ‘advised’ with harsh words. I just don’t agree with this kind of attitude. I myself had drown in the so-called muslimah fashion world where wearing headscarf with tight clothes are norm to the society. But deep down inside I felt that I wanted to improve myself and slowly change my clothing piles. Changes happen when there is a little cry in the heart seeking for something to replace the old parts of ourselves. But a change requires a small or big trigger in us pushing to make the first move. Yes, that’s what it is – the first move.

When the first time I thought of covering my feet when I go out, I quite hesitated. Worried I might not be able to istiqomah or consistent in wearing socks but the determination to change has overcome my concern. There were people around you who would constantly checked on you, looking for any imperfection in you, just to pull you down. Although some meant to sincerely advise you, the words they choose might hurt you in many ways. I have seen many public figures who donned the hijab at the first phase, received some irritating comments pushing them to change 360 degrees into an ustazah. Comments on the headscarves being too short, not wearing socks, no inner wear underneath their see-through headscarves, etc.; were given in blunt, negative contexts. The person who is accepting these comments will eventually feel agitated because things they are slowly improving are still not enough in the eyes of the communities.

Giving advice is a form of da’wah. Apparently, da’wah has to be done with hikmah. You can’t be preaching about how ugly and horrendous the hell would be without revealing about the beautiful, alluring paradise. Getting others to perform good deeds requires proper da’wah invitation which comprises intellectual speaks and humble approach. My husband used to debate with me about an Islamic topic but I just couldn’t accept his argument. In the end, he made me watch a video of a famous shaykh who explained in detail about the ibadah. Alhamdulillah, with Allah’s decree, I accepted the fact with an open heart and thanked my husband for his method of da’wah – by using the video. I guessed not everyone able to absorb any form of preaching, thus we need to find suitable method to deliver our messages deliberately.

Rasulullah SAW said: “Whoever guides (another) to a good deed will get a reward similar to the one who performs it.” (Sahih Muslim)

I always emphasised on seeking  beneficial knowledge through out our lives. These knowledge will guide and help us to improve ourselves as human beings, especially as the servants of Allah. Without knowledge we will tend to go against the teaching of Rasulullah SAW as we do not know which is right or wrong. But there are others who have good knowledge but act arrogantly and quite conceited. With this attitude, they are keen to judge others who has not got better knowledge by giving inappropriate comments and hurtful thoughts.

Our words are du’a. Thus, speak or write with wisdom. Do not try to hurt others with our words even though we meant to give good advice. If we would like to give da’wah and corrected others’ faults, choose proper words and deliver them humbly. InshaAllah, Allah will make it easier for others to accept them.

Instead of saying, “Your hijab is not how a Muslim woman should wear!”

You can change it with, “MashaAllah, you look beautiful wearing hijab. I pray that you’ll continue learning about the hijab and may you always try to improve yourself wearing the full hijab.”

Be mindful that some people might struggle to change, they are probably starting at a very slow pace, but do not critic their effort. Show some respect and encourage them to keep going. We will never know the person we have been criticised before might be the one who is better than us in the akhirah. Allah knows best.

3 Ways to Protect Yourself from the Evil Eye

I came across a few posts and articles about Al-A’in or the Evil Eye. At first, I don’t really bother about it. I mean, just because I don’t know what it is, I tend to ignore it and pretend it has nothing to do with me. But a tweet from Shaykh Sajid Umar on evil eye got my attention instantly:

“The evil eye is a real phenomenon. Think about that the next time you post a picture of your children online. May Allah protect us all.”

What is it so harmful about the evil eye which can turn into a mishap if people post a picture of their children online? I was curious. This must be something serious till Shaykh Sajid Umar would tweet about it right?

So I began to do some research to understand more about Al-A’in. Surprisingly, I was shocked with my findings about Al-A’in. I then realised that it can happen to anyone whether they realised it or not.

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) mentioned and narrated by Abu Huraira:

The effect of an evil eye is real. (Sahih Bukhari)

What actually is the evil eye or Al-A’in? A’in is defined as the eye in arabic. But, this syndrome does not necessarily involve the eyes only. It is mainly related to the heart. When you see or hear something which makes you feel impressed, the feeling might develop into jealousy and hasad. Once jealousy penetrated into one’s heart, it could caused illness or even death to the victim.

For example, a man A posted a picture of him went on a yearly vacation oversea on social media. But, without him knowing, someone else B felt impressed with him joyfulness and slowly developed the feeling of jealousy inside of him. B kept praising him and do not seek refuge from Allah that the happiness A attained was from Allah. Thus, the shaytan will eventually blow the fire of jealousy into B and the evil eye will effect A’s health.

Hence, we need to ensure we are always protected against other’s hasad and there are few methods in doing so:

1. Applying supplication (du’a) as follows:

Ibn Abbas narrated that Rasulullah (peace be upon him) seek refuge for his grandchildren, Hassan and  Hussain:

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I seek protection for you two by the perfect words of Allah from every shaytan, and dangerous creature, and from every eye that is evil. 

2. When we see someone with good fortune, we need to pray to Allah to bless the person. 

This was advised in a hadith recorded by Imam Ahmad about a story of two men who went for a trip and stopped by to take a bath when one of them saw the other’s skin and found it so beautiful. When the evil eye affected the man, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told him that he needs to ask Allah to bless him instead (whenever you see something which pleases you).

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,”

“Why would one of you kill his brother? If you see something you like, then pray for blessing for him.” (Imam Ahmad)

Therefore, when we come across anything or anyone we like or adore, it is advisable to pray to Allah to bless him/her/it. One of the simple du’as is Allahumma bariklahu (for man) which means May Allah bless him or Barakallahu feek (May Allah bless you). And always equip ourselves with these surahs: Al-Ikhlas, Al-Falaq and An-Nas.

Sometimes, evil eye can occur even if we have no intention to show off our happiness and success. It can happen if we are not careful enough to protect ourselves with the remembrance of Allah.

3. Do Ruqyah

However, for those who have afflicted with the evil eye, one of the ways to cure it, is by doing ruqyah. Ruqyah is the recitation of the Quran seeking the refuge in Allah, remembrance and supplications that are used as a means of treating sicknesses and other problems as the Quran is the source of healing (www.assimalhakeem.net). There are few hadith mentioning about the Ruqyah on evil eye:

Umm Salamah narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) saw in her house a girl whose face had a black spot. He said,”She is under the effect of the evil eye, so treat her with a Ruqyah.” (Sahih Bukhari)

A’ishah R.A narrated,” Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) ordered me or somebody else to do Ruqyah (if there was a danger) from an evil eye.” (Sahih Bukhari)

Apparently, evil eye is widely known to other races and religions too. There are many names being addressed to the evil eye. Perhaps this syndrome or sickness has gotten many people to be really careful with their contentments. But I’m not saying we can’t share our good stories with others like birth of our children, weddings or even vacations. The rule of thumb is to be extra careful and learn how to protect ourselves by remembering Allah. It is more appropriate if we share our good news with people who care for us and would pray for our blessings.

This article is meant to educate others to safeguard our eyes and hearts with good intentions so that we will not create the evil eye unintentionally. Although this article is quite brief, I hope you will get some benefit from it, InshaAllah. You may search for more information regarding this. May Allah protect us from the Al-A’in and any sort of evil out there.

Islamic Kingdom in Spain fell because of fitnah


I have never had any interest in history, especially during my school days. The learning of History subject in school was just for the purpose of passing the examinations then gets an A or a B to ensure the examination results on the paper look plainly nice with acceptable grades.

But I was totally thrilled once I got the opportunity to learn the Islamic history of Spain. A visit to Spain a few weeks ago left me with unforgettable experiences.

The world knows that Islamic dynasty ruled Spain for 800 years with great civilization & massive knowledge development. Under the ruling of the Umayyad, many Islamic intellectuals ventured widely in scientific knowledge, architecture, philosophy and mathematics till Spain or better known as Al-Andalus (during the Islamic ruling) became the great power in the era.

A beneficial lesson we had on the Islamic kingdom in Spain was while we were in Granada, about 400km from Madrid. It was when we took a special tour to Al Hambra, a citadel on a strategic hill overlooking its beautiful, historic city. During the tour, I was excited to find out how Islamic Kingdom ruled Spain with distinguish civilization and true unity between other religions in the country like Christianity and Judaism.

But the majestic kingdom of Islam in Spain terribly had to come to an end. The tour guide told us that the downfall of Islam was caused by no other than ‘fitnah’ or in other word – defamation. Truth is, the fitnah occurred was made from the inside the kingdom, within the Muslims themselves. I was devastated to know this.

…they have expelled you, and fitnah is worse than killing.
[surah Al-Baqarah, ayah 191]

This was so tragic. Knowing how powerful this country can be with exceptional Islamic government, the fall was such regret. But to make it worse, the fall was not entirely due to other powers, it was from the poisonous mouths of Muslim brothers. Astagfirullahala’zim.

I came to realize that those stories from the past have never taught us to not repeat the mistakes. Yet, we tend to live our lives today with so much shame full of fitnah and backbiting till we are trapped in the world of lies. Our involvement in creating fitnah every day is seriously disgraceful when social media tools such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. are becoming our sinful playground to spread lies and fitnah.

There are times when we are not happy with the government or our companies or even our friends, we quickly write uncertain or false statements on the social media or in a simpler way to just forward and share the posts around. Sadly, this is fitnah.

O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful. [Surah Al-Hujurat ayah 12]

Creating false news about others and spreading them around are awfully a norm to most of us. Do be more careful with our words although they don’t come out from our lips, writing them down is similarly sinful as spreading fitnah. Do not let our religion and nation become weak and fragile by fitnah created by us, the Muslims. May Allah protect us all.

Call to Him, He will answer

Hira' Cave from the peak

I was slowly climbing up the Jabal Nour behind my brother. I looked up and saw my families have quickly gone up without any trouble. But somehow, both of us were left a long way off that we could hardly see the rest of the team.

The sun was extremely hot that day and I felt that I was too much dehydrated till it made me so weak. It was half the journey up to Hira’ Cave, perhaps at nearly 300 steps away from the cave, I suddenly stopped at the man – made bench allocated for the hikers as pit stop. I took a long breath and decided to advise my brother to continue his hiking without me. I just gave up. He went up and left me to take a break.

Yes, I JUST GAVE UP. I wanted to cry feeling so helpless that I couldn’t continue the journey to see the historic cave. I was so tired and felt terribly sorry that I’ve finished the whole bottle of mineral water along the way. Nothing left for me and thirst began to weaken my body. It was then when I made du’a to Allah to make me strong and be able to carry on as I had come a very long way.

Few minutes later, a mid-age lady hiked up and made a stop at the bench next to me. After she greeted me with salaam, we had a short conversation and said this:

“Let’s go up the hill together, we can slowly do it inshaAllah.”

I just felt so relieved at that moment because I have someone with me who approximately will be hiking at my pace. We went up together whilst talking endlessly till she asked what my favourite surah is.

“Ohh, I have a few but the one that I do memorized is Al-Inshiroh,” the surah just popped up in my mind. Albeit it is a simple, short surah, I have a thing towards this particular surah due to its beautiful meaning. My favourite parts are:

For indeed, with hardship will be ease. [Surah Al-Inshirah ayah 5]

Indeed, with hardship will be ease. [Surah Al- Inshirah ayah 6]

We recited the surah together throughout our journey and rested a few times at some pit stops. It was a wondrous expedition having someone to tag along in reaching the Hira’ Cave. Being honest, it wasn’t the peak that made me feel on top of the world but the climb was definitely a worth experience.

The incident that happened during my hike up to the Hira’ Cave was unforgettable. I’ve always known about asking Allah for help and guidance whenever we are in casualties but yet we sometimes don’t realize or aware of the help sent to us in many forms and means are actually none other than from Allah. Subhanallah… As for me, Allah has sent the lady to motivate and support me when I was down and started to give up. Allah Al – Muttakabir. Yes, everything happens with Allah’s permission and I have no doubt with Allah’s qada’ and qadar.

At times, we tend to cry for Allah’s help to mitigate our sorrows and pains or even pull us out from our hardships. Some people might get the help right away and some a little bit later. Some will suffer for years till their hardships begin to cause them to question Allah’s love towards them. But do ponder upon the story of Prophet Ayyub a.s who was tested with a disease for many years but never complain. The help from Allah came when he finally seek refuge to Him:

And [mention] Ayyub, when he called to his Lord, “Indeed, adversity has touched me, and you are the Most Merciful of the merciful.” – [Surah Al-Anbiya’ ayah 83.]

So We responded to him and remove what afflicted him of adversity. And We gave him [back] his family and the like thereof with them as mercy from Us and a reminder for the worshippers [of Allah ]. –[Surah Al-Anbiya’ ayah 84.]

The patience showed by Prophet Ayyub a.s was remarkable. It is an example for us to be patient with Allah’s trials upon us and never lose hope with our prayers to Allah.

Trials and hardships are meant to serve us in this life. They are the key indicator to measure our imaan in dunya before we enter the ultimate eternal life in the akhirah. From small tests to the big ones, all of these trials are accountable to be judged by Allah later.

Just bear in mind, when trials and hardships occur, endure them with patience then pray to Allah to ease them for us. Perhaps those trials are our tickets to Jannah.


Writer’s Corner at Zaahara.com

Alhamdulillah for the opportunity given by Zaahara.com allowing me to write some posts for their new da’wah project, WRITER’S CORNER. It’s a platform where Muslims & Muslimahs share their thoughts and experiences about Islam, online.


My first article for Zaahara.com is called Where is Allah? It’s a simple article yet something to be carefully understood by all Muslims. I’ll share the article here too, InshaAllah.


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